Teen Christian Girl Connection

Hello s! This month we're talking about: Modesty I'm so excited! This is our 1st topic and it's so important. Modesty is something that all s struggle with, including me. Even the most Godly will struggle with it. Especially when it's hot outside and you're burning up. Everyone knows that the less clothing, the cooler you are. Now, that may be true, but what effect does it have on the people around you. Unless you stay inside all the time and there are no boys or men around (including your Dad) then chances are some guy is going to see you. If that guy sees you in a tube top ( which is a strapless shirt) and super-teeny shorts, what do you think that makes him think about? Probably, . NO WAY!!!!! You may be thinking. That's IMPOSSIBLE! I would NEVER have known that! You probably wouldn't have thought about that, but guys are wired different they think different. Here is a little bit of the article :

The Inside Scoop on Guys by Richard A. Bergland from Brio Magazine:

Guys are visual. That should come as no surprise to anyone. When guys see something that’s pleasing to their eye, they’re drawn to it, attracted by it. It could be you, a motorcycle, a big, juicy steak or a sports jersey. If it looks good, he wants it. A guy will look at a new Corvette convertible and think, That’s a great-looking car! A may wonder if the seats are comfy, how many CDs the player will hold, if the fold-down visor mirror has lights or how she can personalize the interior. The guy just knows it looks good, and he’d look good in it!

The first thing a guy looks at when he’s interested in a is her physical appearance. Now don’t be offended. I know some of you are thinking, Not my guy! He’s a Christian. He cares more about who a is on the inside than what she looks like on the outside. That may be true. You’ve gotta remember that I’m speaking in general terms, okay? But even in general terms, most guys — Christian or not — are initially attracted to a female’s looks. Hey, I’m just being honest here. I was a Christian guy in high school, and I’m telling you this is where I was coming from. Just let me be honest, okay? You can disagree later.

It’s natural for a guy to think about physical appearance, because God created males to be visually stimulated. Is she cute? Pretty? Does she have a good figure? Are her clothes stylish? Does she carry herself well? These questions are all “eye-related.”

A guy’s not immediately turned on by the fact that you make good grades, are organized, can bake a mean casserole and know that Ephesians is in the New Testament. Sure, these things are important, but a guy doesn’t always notice right away.

Now s, on the other hand, tend to be stimulated by mental or emotional things. You’re not simply interested in a guy’s physical abilities; you care about his intellectual side, too. (That’s because you’re a female, and you’re more well-rounded emotionally than we guys are at this age.)

You want to know if a guy feels toward you the same way you feel toward him, don’t you? You also want to be able to have a fairly intelligent conversation about important issues and feel like he’s genuinely concerned about you.

Guys are physical. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out. One quick trip down memory lane to your fifth- grade P.E. class should convince you. In the ever-popular kickball game, did boys politely tag you on the left shoulder with the ball, or did they throw it at you with enough force to separate your head from the rest of your body? I thought so. Don’t get me wrong. That doesn’t mean guys still want to do that today. But, they’re still physical beings, and they enjoy physical contact. That’s why sports are usually important to guys. And that’s also why, when it comes to , touching is important to them.

I hope I can just be really blunt here, because it’s totally important that you know how a guy thinks in a relationship. He may be the nicest, most respectable and decent male person you’ve ever met. But, he still enjoys holding your hand, kissing you and holding you in his arms as closely to himself as possible, because he enjoys the physical contact.

When a guy kisses a , it feels good and it invokes in him all kinds of physical senses and pleasurable thoughts. A views a kiss as a spiritual connection — a sign of commitment from the guy and a belief that the guy wishes to know her better personally.

This isn’t always true for the guy. Although he may kiss you and hold you, he does so because of the physical attraction and the way it makes him feel physically, not emotionally or spiritually.

Guys are the ual aggressor in the male/female relationship. That’s not really a news flash for you, is it? The fact is, guys are not only visually stimulated and physical, but they really are the ual aggressor in any relationship. And you know why? God made them that way. That’s right. God wired guys to be ually aggressive, just as He made you to be the caring, nurturing one in the relationship.

This doesn’t mean either of you needs to act on your “wiring” right now, though! Let’s backtrack for a sec. Remember a minute ago I said guys like to kiss and hug and hug and kiss some more because it feels good? They like the physical rush . . . but the emotional part often isn’t as important to them. Know why? One basic infallible reason: Most guys in their teen years are incapable of handling the emotional and spiritual complexities of a relationship with a .

Okay, so does this help? Guys are like totally wired different frrom s. So this month, we're talking about Modesty. So that you can learn how to be modest and help to keep you from tempting the guys around you!

Here's another paragraph from a guys perspective that was in the February 2008 inbox of brio mag:

From a guy’s perspective
Hey, s! I don’t really read s’ mags, but I just kind of sneaked inside these pages hoping you’ll hear me out for a second. Do you have any idea how VERY important it is to Christian guys that you dress modestly?

As guys—even though we’re Christians—we have the desire to see as much of a as we can, but that’s the problem! We’re Christians, and we’re desperately striving to hold ourselves to a higher standard. Most s in our ure are incredibly immodest, and unfortunately many Christian s just join right in.

When you wear low-cut tops or short shorts, we interpret that as your not caring to help us become all God wants of us spiritually. Do you really think it’s easy for us to concentrate on purity at a youth event when the s are wearing tops that show their stomach when they raise their hands during worship?

Girls, you have the power to help us become all God wants us to be. Please consider doing so!

I hope that this paragraph helped you get a clearer view of how what you wear affects how you think. I look forward to discussing this topic with all of you over the next month!

May God Bless!

Courtney S.

If you would like to view the whole article by: Richard A. Bergland please click here.

 

As some of you already know, this month's topic is: Modesty. Modesty is topic that most of us, probably don't even think about. It's there and it's important, but we just don't pay it any attention. It a lot like the 'green house effect'. For years , humans were damaging the ozone layer, making the hole larger, and larger, but not until resently did the scientists begin to take action and make us aware. Now a lot of people are going "green". I know my family is. Modesty is the same way. It's been a problem for a good while now. Let's take a minute for a quick history lesson review, I know, I know it's summer, but just follow me for a minute. Back in the 1920's a new generation of Americans were running things, and this generation had a lot of whole new ideas, such as: bootleggers, who were called bootleggers because they snuck illegal whiskey in to the country in there boots. They were also the flappers. The flappers are who I want you to focus on. Now, the flappers wore short skirts & heavy make-up. This wardrobe, shocked the elders in the community and in long site ruined the modesty code for s in America. Now, most of you probably remember when just a few years ago, s wore shirts that showed there belly buttons, and short-shorts. I'm happy to see that now, longer shirts are in style and leggings. So that not as much skin is showing. Today, the issue deals more with inappropiate pictures taken by teen and tween stars such as: Hannah Montana's Miley Cyrus and High School Musical's Vannessa Anne Hudgens. So, as you can see, modesty has been a problem throughout the history of America. Even as far back in time as the 1920's. God Bless you all & and remember, God cares about you, what you do, and He wants to chill with you.

 

Until Next Time,

♥ Courtney ♥